It can be difficult to know what to do for the best when one of your parents needs care but the other one doesn’t, especially when they want to remain together, but there are solutions that can make this possible.
When your parents have lived together for many happy years but one of them needs care, it can be difficult to know what to do. Splitting them up seems wrong, but if only one of them needs a specialised form of care, finding the money to pay for both to go into a residential facility together can cause financial issues. Often these types of facilities may not have 2 spaces available at the same time, and even if they do there is a good chance your parents might be given separate rooms as many of them do not have the facilities to cater for couples.
Often the task of caring for the person who needs more help falls to the healthier adult, but this is not always practical especially as both grow older – however this is the way many couples prefer things to be as it offers them the chance to remain together, and they simply can’t imagine living apart.
There are alternative options available when you want to keep your parents together and only one of them needs care, and these are well worth considering.
Home care services are much more common now that they used to be and can offer a great alternative solution to the more traditional care home assistance. They allow your parent, or in this case parents, to remain in the family home and in the case of a couple more importantly this allows them to remain together. This type of care comes in a variety of different formats that can be tailored to suit the needs of the individuals.
Traditional home care usually involves the carers visiting a couple of times during the course of the day, this allows them to help with the persons individual care needs. This takes some of the burden off the healthier spouse and allows them to deal with some of the other day to day tasks, all whilst remaining in familiar surroundings.
This kind of care may however not be sufficient in some cases as there are times, such as during the night, when the couple will be on their own.
Live in care
If day time care alone is not enough then it is certainly worth considering the possibility of a live in care provider. This is someone who will move into the home and can provide assistance 24/7. In addition to taking care of any care needs they will also be able to support the couple by helping with some domestic tasks. This can be invaluable if one of the couple requires dementia care as staying in familiar surroundings can be much less stressful for everyone involved.